Going to couples therapy means your relationship is actually good – seriously!

Hearing that someone is in couples therapy can immediately evoke feelings of shame or pity. They must be having problems. Poor them. The only place where shame and pity belong is in complacency. Living mindlessly in a relationship that is not mutually fulfilling. 

So many couples I work with, come into their first session nervous, embarrassed and hopeless. They share their marital issues, heartbreaking moments and stressors. They are frustrated, irritable and sometimes emotional. This is all of course, very normal for couple’s therapy. If you can’t express yourself in therapy, where can you? Each couple’s issues should be approached with respect and appreciation for reaching out for help. For telling their story together. It’s an honor to hold space for people when they are sharing intimate details of their relationship that can be uncomfortable and vulnerable.

It’s important for any couple choosing marital counseling to know that going to couples therapy means that their relationship is, in fact, good. It is worth fighting for. It’s a sign of life. It’s a pulse. Relationship might not be perfect - a couple might be going through a rough patch or they may be going through a very painful moment in their relationship. There is temptation at this time to throw in the towel and accept the fact that indifference and complacency are acceptable in that relationship. But there is also another option of reaching out for help and seeing what can be worked on for the better. Couples therapy is very action based. Couples are making an attempt to breathe new life into their relationship and that means that relationship is worth improving. Whether you select my practice, or go with another, it is important to find therapy practice that is a good fit for you and your partner. Your own happiness is worth it.